Just a little help with some stuff.

[Dragon]

Ok, I have several things racing through my mind, and I'm trying to think outside of the box with as many FM thoughts as possible. Anyway, I was wondering if anyone would have any insight on some of my questions.

What's the best way to get a girlfriend? I'm 16, 17 soon, and one of my goals by the end of the month is to have a GF, or at least have gone on a date with someone. Now, I don't want to ask anyone at my school or at a local center I know of, so how would I go about finding someone I've never met before, starting up a friendship, and turn that into a relationship within the month?

Also, should I call Vincent? (It's all explained in my myspace. www.myspace.com/draganiii) They all explain why basically, but the most recent one should be the best for everyone with a short attention span.

And then, I have a really bad reputation with two kids at my school, Robert and Steven. Let's just say that last year... wasn't my best year. Well, I'm into playing basketball. (OMG, Gerry into basketball, a sport? *Major shock*) Anyway, they like playing it though, and I seriously doubt they want me playing, so I've just been getting shot practice in before and after school each day. Should I talk to them? If so, what should I say? Or is what I'm doing now perfectly fine?

Any help is greatly appreciated, I'm majorly stuck here! XD

[Yoshi]

For the ladies, man, that's like... generalizations so large they're meaningless. Believe it or not each woman is different and what they respond to changes depending on the person. Nevertheless, I'll see if I can help ya out. What seems to be a consistent winner is confidence. It sounds cheesy, but "ya gotta believe in yourself;" go up to someone and start talking to them. Something like "Hey there, how are you doing, I mean, what the haps?" Do not give in to stereotypes. I know you may think that the blond woman doesn't have any brains, and while there's an 87% chance that she doesn't, you don't want to sink yourself forever by hatin' the 13% that do. I also recommend asking questions. Not as extreme as in The 40 year old Virgin, which you have probably seen multiple times, but be interested (or at least fake being interested) in what she has to say regardless of the topic. Remember: Women love talking about themselves. You must love, like or at least tolerate talking about them too.

Call Vincent. Say something like "Hey there, this is Gerry from the YAR. How ya doin' man, I mean, what the haps?" Now, disturbing people is something I have done often, and is in fact something I specialize in. The single best way to make them not be so disturbed is to keep contact with them in order to show them that you're not as crazy as they think you are, or at least not the "I'm gonna kill you in your sleep and laugh while doing it." kind of crazy. If you break of contact now then Vincent will go on thinking that you're the wrong kind of crazy; show him that you're the good crazy, the funny crazy; the "Daaaaaaaaaaamn!" crazy. If you're crazy at all, that is.

Doing what you are is good enough for now; you need to build up some fundamental B-ball skills before talking to those who think that they own the court. After you've built up enough game to where you're fairly confidant in your abilities, go and talk them; you can't live in the shadow of the past forever. Say something like "Hey guys, how's life treatin' ya, I mean, what the haps?" Do not talk about Kobe Bryant in any way, shape or form. Trust me on this one. You have a bad rep with them and your only choice is to build it up from scratch. The going will definitely be tough at first but if you stay cool, calm and friendly then interactions will get easier over time; you may even find that they appreciate your newly found "skillz" on the court.

Golden rule: You are not now nor will you ever be gangsta. Don't act like it. Ever. No, not even then.

[Dragon]

Thanks Lazo, but that left me with a few more questions. >_< So, do I just go up to a random girl, introduce myself, and start a conversation? Because like, I stutter and it gets multitudes worse when I'm nervous, though it has gotten better since I've been in the Y.A.R. program. And I swear, hardly anyone anymore has the patience for it.

And heh, well I freaked him out in about the same way I freak anyone out. My family life, or I guess my whole life, is like waaaaaaaayyyyyyy different than most peoples' lives. And then when I do something that's normal for me, like say acknowledging someone for doing something nice (whereas it was meaningless for them) it freaks them out because they're not used to it. That's just like a very small sample of what I mean, I don't exactly know how to put it in words.

Now about the basketball thing. Daniel, Sam, and Ben asked me to play with them one time. Apparently I'm good with shots (though I didn't make any in that time), but as far as actually playing it, yeah.. So I was thinking people want me out on the court (even the teachers were saying I should), but Steven and Robert might get a bit angry and complain to the teachers about it, or at least Steven might, it seems like his character, Robert maybe, but maybe not. And don't worry! XD I don't hold half a degree to basketball, took me a second to recognize the name Kobe Bryant. It's more of a hobbie if anything, I don't plan on joining a team or anything serious like that.

And XD, I'm not nor have I ever been gangsta. lol

[contention]

Well when it comes to the aplitudes of women there are many things you can come to. But, "Getting a girl" is just another phrase we as men hold onto so that there is some hope out there. However, we are all the same type of being and therefore can not be scripted out of sequence. There is no way to hold onto one certain name and go with it, when you want something it eventually crosses your pass like some sort of wild fire. Obtaining this inferno, what you do choose to shall take time. You are yourself, and therefore always will remain; even if you wear the most oriental carved of such a mask. There is no where for you to hide, and it's not a game in grasping what you dream to achieve. In all due respects, everything has it's own balance. Life is run a way, because of the choices you make. Nothing can be blamed for faults but your own magnitudes that you line. Every little movement is only gained by the steps you do run to take. They do not come on their own, it is all by that one decision, that one drive that makes you roar an engine louder than the streets cove.

Issues among our own activities spring like a fountains fierce calling; every breath can lead to a new path. However, to know one sport of course: Only you as whom you are can make the right movement. There are those but here to give advice among your own self. Finding that right way is all within your conscience. Such is made of your morals. Yet, the dexterity of these events leads to believe that there is something you do wish to change. But Dragon, cultivating out future plans is all in the caverns of your chest. Logic and heart do guide your way, and eventually things will seem right clear. None can truthfully take your hand and make sure you are content with each road travelled. Opinions differ our minds, and because of this we can never all be the same. Each man as his ownself sees a picture in a diffrent way. Your issues to another may come out with diffrent resolutions; while you may not agree. Yet, you do ask a great question by proposing these. As human beings, we seem to be capable of giving what personal theories can spread.

As for finding love, this is a hard question. Approaching one you do adore is all up to your own self. How would you go at it? Only one person can decide that, and that man is up within the confines of your own being speaking as you read or do what you please. Sometimes one must wait for the coo of it, that little tap on the shoulder that sends for a dance. Eventually it shall show its palm and those wanting eyes, asking for your own hand in a graceful jest to the tommorow. From first love to last, the first never seems to stay in place. It takes time to understand the manifestation that love can produce. You will have your heart broken, yet sewn back together from another face. It may take times or a one chance to break down the barrier into a positive manner. Falling into that hole is something many do fear, but you have to eventually take it. We all love, more than you think, and even you do right now. While another out there may have the same illusion onto your own figure. No one ever understands the reality, they see what their eyes clearly make a just illusion to. Someday though, after trials and takes you will find that one soul which will wrap is loving embrace around those arms and make you feel like a firefly.

Finding the golden beam of your activity is in the bones you own. Not all others shall ever agree with everything you partake in. That is up to your own frame. If you wish to make up in a sense to these others, never fear to ask. Of course, you do what you choose to do and no other can tell you otherwise. You are diffrent from all, as all is diffrent from thee. There is something there, some kind of handle to get a grab on. Of course, where it is and how sturdy it may be is up to how well you built it.

[joshi]

dragon said:

What's the best way to get a girlfriend? I'm 16, 17 soon, and one of my goals by the end of the month is to have a GF, or at least have gone on a date with someone. Now, I don't want to ask anyone at my school or at a local center I know of, so how would I go about finding someone I've never met before, starting up a friendship, and turn that into a relationship within the month?

Dragon, I'm afraid that's something too far of a reach to achieve in a month successfully, it took me one year to ask my best friend out to be my girlfriend, and you're saying you think you can pull it off in one-twelth the time it took me to get mines? Getting a girlfriend is more like a long-term goal, devotion takes time, if getting a girlfriend within a month is a bet you made with a friend or something, you should surrender it. Like they say, "You can't hurry love," nope, you just have to wait.

But to get a girl, um, girls nowadays have moved on from getting the big, muscular men (not all, but most). Girls like a charming guy, be Prince Charming, and a special girl might actually give you a glance or two, from there it's a pleasure cruise to a relationship.

[Moot]

dragon said:

What's the best way to get a girlfriend?

Your mileage may vary.

[Dragon]

What's Chlorofoam? And Joshi, the bet was made with my mentor, long story lol, check out my myspace. It's basically trying on new ideas. Say, did you know that a mouse is smarter than a human? Anyway, I'm trying on the idea of getting a GF by the time the month is over, I'm just trying to find out a way how. And then there's the basketball stuff, I really think I should call Vince, but I dunno when a good time is, or what I'd talk about for that matter..

[dude]

About the two guys, kick them in the nuts, and say something like "You retards don't want me playing!?!?!1?!?!1?! So try to f***** take me out here, bi*****!!!!1!!!111!!"

Talking doesn't work anymore, specially with idiots.

[Dragon]

dude said:

About the two guys, kick them in the nuts, and say something like "You retards don't want me playing!?!?!1?!?!1?! So try to f***** take me out here, bi*****!!!!1!!!111!!"

Talking doesn't work anymore, specially with idiots.

LMFAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! OMG that was great, I really needed that! XDDDDDDDDDDDDDDD Nice sense of humor, I needed a good laugh today. XD OMG that was hilarious, good thing I haven't had a lot of sugar or else I'd be on the floor suffocating. What you said is true through, talking things out hardly works anymore.

[Moot]

dragon said:

What's Chlorofoam?

My humour is wasted on you people ¦(

The use of chloroform to knock out a victim was a recurrent plot device in 1980s television series such as Knight Rider, The A-Team, The Bionic Woman or Wonder Woman and was also used in the more recent Peter Jackson's King Kong movie.

Typically, the villain would spill a few drops from a small bottle onto a handkerchief, and then sneak up behind the victim. When the handkerchief was held over the mouth of the victim, there would be a brief struggle before the victim slumped into unconsciousness. After-effects were usually limited to a brief headache. In reality, a dose far greater than a few drops inhaled over a short period of time would be required to knock somebody out. Such a dose could also be lethal.

[Not-Garr]

Well, as for getting a girlfriend, if you want a fast one, you should do the following: Search avidly for a girl who looks like she needs help. Put on your charming act, walk over, help her out, ask her if she's alright, etc etc, then say it wasn't any problem when she thanks you, then walk away slowly. Girls love that stuff. Never, ever, ever, press for her number first off. Try slowly making friends with her, cracking jokes that make her laugh is good, show interest in what she likes, show you KNOW something about it. Eventually, start small, ask her if she wants to go see a movie with you. Don't EVER let your nervousness show, or you're screwed.

As for Vincent, just call him, keep in contact, apologize ONCE for freaking him out, then never again, shoot the breeze, talk casually, it'll work out.

And the basketball thing, well, sometimes you just have to force your cause...

[Dragon]

Thanks you guys for the help, I really appreciate it, but I have another question.. relating to girls. But first..

About Vincent: I tried calling once and he didn't answer, I've been debating on whether or not to call back.

About Steven and Robert: Steven is a straight out butthole, for lack of a better cussword. I tried adding him on MySpace (well my cousin Nick actually took the mouse and did it.) but he simply didn't add me, jerk. As for Robert, I don't know. Last I checked, he hadn't signed on since the 11th, the day before it was done.

Now, about girls: I finally found this really cool girl on myspace. We have a lot of the same interests, like the paranormal and video games. We've been emailing each other today, she just added me today, and she seems really nice. Any pointers on how not to screw up a good friendship, and a possible relationship? I don't want to come on, that seems straight out rude, but she did reply to my girlfriend add. Here, I'll post what I had in the classifieds section:

"Hi, my name's Gerry Dragan, almost 17yrs old, and I live in Phoenix. I'm just looking for a girlfriend, nothing serious like sex or anything, and I'm not the one to force someone into doing something. I'm very easy going, and I try my best not to be rude. Age makes little difference to me, but preferably someone in their teens, that way it's not awkward to the rest of the family. I don't do drugs or smoke, and I request that you don't either. If you do, just don't do it around me, I have a HIGH intolerance for smoking. Anyway, if anyone is interested just hit me up using my profile, I have msn too. And, btw, I've never actually had a girlfriend before, and I'm trying to "think outside of the box" by not asking around in a familiar community."

UPDATE: I just checked and she gave me her MSN contact email!

[Teo]

Well I've been reading this and, yeah...

I can't say much on the girl topic, as I've had little... experience if you will. All I can say is don't act nervous, but act helpful. Everyone loves someone helpful, not just girls A little something... PAY ATTENTION! When you're talking to someone, don't go daydreaming, if someone says something they've said and you don't know it, your nervousness will break out again. Don't you go daydreaming on me, that's my job.

Can we get a REAL girl to post here? So far we've had only six male people on this topic.

Back on basket ball and your Robert and Steven problemo's. Welp, all I can say is, try to be helpful. Everyone loves a helpful person

[Yoshifrog]

Boys shouldn't even reply here, how would they even know what girls like XD.

I guess being a boy, girls like to be complemented- it makes us feel like you don't think we're hideous or something. And boys should talk to girls, you know, walk along side them and start a conversation- if you get called a loser and to go away, try to show them you're NOT a loser- or find someone else to bother XD
Don't be helpful- don't carry their books or help them out, that just embarrasses them. A good helpful action would be to pick up something they dropped, like a pen- that's not bad- It's just getting all over their stuff, it's annoying.
And take it slow- you'll be able to tell if someone likes you.
That's all the advice I have, I don't know if it'll do any good.

[Anjil]

I guess another female should post here, too. XD

Well, if it's a Myspace relationship, it looks like you won't be going on an actual date for a while, so you probably won't have to worry about anything physical, like opening the door for her, etc.

- Try to be funny or witty. Girls usually love when a guy can make her laugh. Don't be corny, though. That's a big no-no.
- When it comes to compliments, don't go overboard and compliment her too much. She'll probably start to find it annoying. But it is nice to throw in something nice to say every now and then.
- Also, keep your focus on her when talking online (unless either of you are busy). Try not to let any silent moments take place. If that does happen, just ask some questions about her. Not like the weather or anything, but something that asks about her interests, like the paranormal or video games. When she's aggravated about something, ask her what's wrong and try to cheer her up. But if she doesn't want to tell you, don't pry into it.
- Some bit of confidence is always nice. But overconfidence/conceitedness just kills it (at least for me). I despise egotists. Having no confidence isn't good either. You should be able to stand up for yourself. Girls usually admire that.
- Of course, just be yourself! You've probably heard that a million times, but that's because it helps. If she's not able to like you for who you are, she's not worth being with.


Hopefully that helps, Dragan! I'm not much for this type of advice, because results may vary. Meaning not all girls are exactly the same. This advice may work for some girls, not for others, and vice-versa. Right now, your goal should be to get to know her. To see what makes her tick. Most of all, just go with the flow. Eventually, you'll know if she likes you back.

[Yoshi]

teo said:

Can we get a REAL girl to post here? So far we've had only six male people on this topic.

Don't be hatin' just 'cause I'm a playa. More seriously, though, I'm not the master at getting women. I am good at repelling them.

Women like humor, but only when they're not the ones being targeted. Women don't appreciate being the butt of any joke, ever. No, not even then. A few snide/sarcastic comments directed toward her beliefs, styles, whatever will send her packing. You kind of humor will make this easier or harder to avoid.

[Strangie]

The reason not enough girls are posting in this topic is because there isn't enough girls. Period. From what I've seen, the internet is mainly a dude festival. XD

But anyways... Since I have next to nothing with luck with the ladies, I have no real advice. I guess all I really have to say is... I just be myself, and let the Strangie flow forth. It hasn't scored me many points in the relationship department (probably because everyone I know is taken anyway, not that I care. XD), but I sure do have a lot more friends than I used to, that's for sure.

Out of all the things Anjil listed, the one I've got down the most (I think) would probably be the humor part. I r funneh.

Or at least I think I am. That's probably not my call. D:

[Not-Garr]

I think Anjil nailed it pretty well. LEVEL UP ! !

As for your Steven and Robert problems on Myspace, not to sound rude... But... ..Dude, it's MySpace.

And don't call Vincent again, if you left a message apologizing, that's ALL you should do. No more, don't bug him ever again or you'll seem creepy.

[Yoshiken]

wait wait wait! Angela is usually at the butt of ALL my jokes XD.

What Angela said is pretty good, but shes a bit off. She mentioned that women vary from each individual slightly. The truth is, they vary EXTREMELY from each one. Ive asked the same questions as this, and ive got COMPLETELY different answers from each person I ask it too. None are the same. I think that there is a perfect "someone" for everyone in the world. You just need to wait till your fate tangles up with that "someone". NEVER, AND I MEAN NEVER, RUSH IN GETTING A RELATIONSHIP. Take your time in life. you will eventually find that one person who will mean the world to you and vice versa.

[Teo]

Welp, I'm slowly learning as I go along ;D...

Maybe I could keep some of this stuff in mind, who knows, Dragan's not the only one out there

As for the help thing, that's kind of what I meant by helpful... beh, never press something, then again, what do I know? Ah well, good luck draggy.