what is it like to be an adult anyway?

[stardust01]

I was just thinking just now this question and I am only still a teen but I just want know how does it feel to be one?

[Moot]

Boring.

[Fluory]

It smells like responsibility and bills.

[darius]

pawy said:

It smells like responsibility and bills.

Exactly.

Take school and replace it with a job that you HAVE to get to by yourself ON TIME, responsible for a specific job day in and out with no summer break and such.

Consider that you may now own your own house, vehicle, possessions, and depending on your income this may be troublesome to pay off. Bills and taxes consume you...

And then there's family. Most of the adults I know happen to be tied up with a husband/wife and at least 2 kids. Try keeping all that in line while upholding to the other things you have to do day in and out.

In other words, I'd expect that given the circumstance, being an adult is often a hard experience to endure and may even be stressful at times. Makes me glad I'm still 15.

[stardust01]

wow makes me glad I still a kid

[contention]

At times it comes into a pressing issue of what the human adult may see in the retrospect of things. As you age in this world you learn more about what lies around you. Because of this, the whole aspect starts to differ on how things come out. Perception is changed and you begin to percieve what is around you in a new pattern. The darkest shadows turn into the lightest corners; yet, one must remind that you can not leap from a corner. You are backed by one exit, an exit that loses it's balance. You can't step through what you come from. Being an adult means you have to take into consideration morality and virtue through a new sight. Innocence is forever lost, no man can keep his heart on the lightest feather. Eventually it to will shed and become that of a gray matter. To weigh down the odds, carry apart a burden, tear each furnace limb from limb; ashes to scale the mighty sea of the soul. Fires to sprawl on ever bush, on every hope, on every dream.

Every day time will take away something of your flesh, let you begin to die as you cherish this world. Embracing it with open arms allows the bones to weaken, to bend down, to bend in. Eventually, we must all die, but the realization starts to come into mind. There is no hobbled hole to lay your head within. Responsiblity, as Pawy mentioned, becomes a task which must go into the balance of things. From taking your life and needs into consideration. Your actions are no longer free, the world and society owns your muscles until the day you can leave this body which controls you. When that may come, none can answer or give any remark upon. Yet only then shall some coming ground lay at your feet. Society holds you until then, in it's cage, in it's bars. Taking them down, can not be held; can not be obtained.

Could some youthful experience be that of sleeping awake? Some might mention it in that era. The whole twist around when we must part our slumbering lens and move foward. Everything in life seems to have its shares of complication and natural curiosity. Adult-hood, well only those in it could tell you what the truth was. Remarks have been made before, the illusion of: Dying yet being alive, the rush of what was once before is depleted; writhing on some horrible placement, knowing what you should not know.

[Brute]

Well...with me just graduating, I am being released into the "Real World." College will be fun but still it will be very busy and the level of responsibility will be kicked up another level.

Being an adult isnt that bad of a thing, except theres just more things you have to do and be ready for more things to come your way. You can still have fun but just be careful of what you do.

Yeah...responsibilty will kick on once you start your teenage years and your adult years. Just gotta take advantage of it while you can and it wont be that hard.

[Strangie]

Mmm, adulthood. I'm 19 in case anybody was wondering. Let's see here!

You'll probably lose contact with 99% of your high school buddies.

Going to college is a pain in the butt and you'll most likely fail half of your classes. Every semester.

Finding a job stinks because you have no work experience and nobody will probably hire you anyway.

Also, you need to keep track of your financial resources, VERY CAREFULLY. Very. At least until you have a stable job.

That said, if you manage to hurdle over all that crap, you have all the freedom in the world. Oh, on a side note, forget everything that's being said about marriage/kids. It'll only lead to depression, grief, and child support.

I have my parents' example to draw on from this.

[Fawks]

strangeone said:

Mmm, adulthood. I'm 19 in case anybody was wondering. Let's see here!

You'll probably lose contact with 99% of your high school buddies.

Going to college is a pain in the butt and you'll most likely fail half of your classes. Every semester.

Finding a job stinks because you have no work experience and nobody will probably hire you anyway.

I too am 19 and I have been through this. Except for the failing part. I never failed... I just stopped and took a break. XD

Being an adult isn't too fun; unless you have money or a job you love doing. You'll have many things to keep track of and if you don't do well at it, you'll end up living with your parents for years longer than you should. Life is hard, but good if you do things right.

[Yoshiken]

well, im 18, so I guess I could express myself as an adult ^^, yes, responsibility comes, and work, and college for some, but that is only the negative side, why not also look at the positive side. There are opportunities such as marriage (which I am highly looking forward too XD) and raising a family. More respect from fellow peers and individuals. and with responsibility and wisdom in mind, you have the possibility to do more. You are "listened to" much more in my opinion too.

I think that adulthood and childhood are completely different things, and some think that becoming an Adult is boring and lackluster. but to me, I just think its because we are accustomed to being a teen and whatnot that its hard to step into a completely different world such as when becoming an Adult.

[Graedius]

strangeone said:

You'll probably lose contact with 99% of your high school buddies.

Not me!
We've strived to prevent it, the internet has it's ways!

Yes, it rather sucks. You'll just sort of go into an endless spiral of work and bill payments to survive and it will just draw on and on and on, perhaps changing methods and lifestyles occasionally along the way, it seems.

[Yoshi]

There's an interesting shift there, because I've been shown that while High School friends tend to fade away, your College buddies will be the permanent ones.

It takes a lot of self discipline and control. You can't just take a few days off and expect everything to move at a slow pace anymore. Oppertunities and deadlines start flying by at faster and faster speeds.

Also Strangie is right about the job; I'm starting to think the only way to get in without previous experience is through patronage (i.e. a friend or someone you know recommends you and gets you in.).

It's weird, like getting more general freedom but having to control that use of freedom more strictly.

[Toshi]

Aaah adulthood...

It depends on how it's looked at... for a kid, they'd hate to be an adult because they don't want all the fuss of having responsabilities for once, but for an adult, they're probably so pleased that they're no longer a kid because now they have something called freedom on their shoulders. It does depend on how one looks at it.

Sure, when you become an adult, it will get harder, you'll lose contact with a few fellow school/college friends, you'll have a job to do which takes up most of your free time, but that's what the world is like, as harsh as it sounds. Yet, it's wonderful!

To me, being an adult (or young adult) is a challenge, but it's a great experience.

[Anjil]

Well, I'm technically not an adult for another 6 months, but I'll be graduating in a couple weeks, so oh well. =P

Marriage and raising a family will probably be the happiest parts of my life. I can't wait, really! I don't see what people find so terrible about it, bah. I do agree with "losing contact with high school buddies," though. All of my friends are moving to other parts of the state or country for their college, while I'm staying here in Southern California for mine. And we'll all be busy with our own colleges, so I guess losing contact is imminent.

The schoolwork will be much harder, yes, but they wouldn't give you the work if it wasn't possible, neh? Well, that's how I look at it, anyway. XD All I'm genuinely frightened of is not being able to find a decent, stable job/career after college. But once that hurdle is jumped, seems like it's all uphill from there.

[stardust01]

anjilyoshi said:

Marriage and raising a family will probably be the happiest parts of my life. I can't wait, really! I don't see what people find so terrible about it, bah.

well from my parents they say that raising kids is quite a handful and it takes up most of their time most people I know don't have kids until there older than 18.

[contention]

Humanity finds it difficult to make use of the true knowledge behind the basic facts of bearing a baby into this world that we do strive within. Of course, it is all based on opinion of the minds that we do hold apart. Some see birth as a key to opening a new life onto the globe, a function that must take place in order for the race around us to continue in succession. This, as well, is something that comes from another form of love. Highly debated by many, this subject is suffocated under the factors of adults and making the right decisions. As younger children, the youthful sections of our society do stumble into the grounds of immature choices. Such "ideas" can bring something in which may be strangely mishandled. These facets are highlighted by scratch-outs in the delusions of a younger force. Their eyes are not as open as those over them, responsibility it still something that remains foreign. Some do not take into consideration the guilt that can come from bringing your own kin into this creation. However, this may also run into the blockade of another question. How old can one be to "take another section" from the definition of "love"? This is only trully answered in ways depended upon the value of those being questioned and their grasp on the world around them.

Babies are that of which we were, it's like your door has closed while another opens not far off. New tasks now enter your hands that were not there before. These can circle many areas of a growing life. As a guardian there are things that seem to be followed in society standards. Such as leading your newborn through the simple steps of what shall come in the future. Personally teaching them the morals that you were taught. Life is one big line, leading down the rope, and it can not be cut off by lack of connect to ones parents. As much denial is set in about beliefs, one can not fully escape what is said from the mouth of their host. These etched words are sewn into the lining of which shall soon cover. As a marker in a child's life, parents gain the knowledge of what should be. Can one personally say that this task is an easy weight on the coming future? Such seems still foreign, as many here do not notice the things that come from those actions. Only what is said from the lips of parents can be passed into the cranium, they alone know what raising you or others trully posseses.

It's a strange thing that comes throughout our conscience as we sit about and listen to our parents bicker over us. Things they say seem useless, and some do mention that as we age, we to will understand it's importance. Maybe such will come to be, for those that raise us understand the importance of experience. Their age gives them a hold on what has occured in time and the way it has. They know what the film reel holds, and all they can merely do is give away a scene. They can't tell you the plot, discovering the signifgance is up to your intuition and understanding on the matter. Growing up seems sometimes diffrent, sometimes what would wish to never come. Yet it is that next step, something that we elude to in younger years. Wondering of what it may be like to have a job, take a vacation, marry and produce. All of them are little dream, with little bows. The average life, with a lovely husband or wife, living out some American dream. The real thing though is what you make it be. It can be the most deroded set of stones ever to walk upon, breaking at every step; or it may be all that you ever hoped for it to be.

[Acesayo]

IM SARCED!!! AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!! -_--_--_--_-

[Moot]

Stop bumping old topics with useless posts. I did actually mention this in the last topic you brought back from the dead.

[vaporshi]

(since the topic has been bumped...?)

Being an adult is AWESOME ;D You have more power over your life. I love being able to go anywhere without being asked for "parental permission". I love how I can eat what I want, stay out as late as I want, and pretty much do whatever I want because it's my life now and I decide how things run.

I make myself sound extremely irresponsible but I'm not. I've always been responsible when it comes to paying bills, spending money, etc so I've never really worried about it. I think the freedom I've received is the worth the extra bit of responsibility I've gained.

I love how I can choose to do anything without anyone having control over my life. I don't want kids and nobody can force me to have 'em. I don't have to live up to anyone's expectations but my own. I've set my own goals in life and I'll follow them as I see fit. If I screw up I have nobody to blame but myself.

[jukku]

Thankfully, I have a ridiculously good resume for my age. So I already have a half-decent job. Actually working and paying for your car, gas, food, and other things sucks though.